Are you having small children at your wedding? One thing is for sure, if you do invite children, their presence will be felt.
Let’s face it, sitting still and keeping clean can be a challenge for them at the best of times. For many it will be their first wedding and it may also be the first time they have seen Mummy and Daddy looking so formally turned out. If it is your own wedding, it will definitely be worth nominating a favourite family member or friend to mind them when you are occupied with the business of the day (speaking to registrars, the service and some of the photographs).
Don’t Expect Too Much
Try not to have critical points in your ceremony dependent on the actions of a 3 year old, or if you do, have a plan B in place, e.g. a young ring bearer could be supported by a Bridesmaid or Usher. If your flower girls/ page boys are very young, consider it a bonus if they manage to accompany you down the aisle, but be prepared to accept that they may join their parents or grandparents instead. Sadly the same may apply for the formal photographs (but don’t worry, natural ones will be just as good, if not better).
Keep Them Occupied
- On a warm sunny day this may not be a challenge, running seemed to be quite enough at this wedding. Books, craft supplies, lego or a new toy may be useful as a fall back.
- It can be a long time between the service and the meal for the littlest ones, so a few handy snacks and drinks will help them keep going until the food is served. Where guests are bringing small children, it may be worth making them aware of your timings so they can work out how they fit with meal and nap times and plan ahead.
- If you provide sweets, make sure they are not of the messy type (think of your dress!) and keep any gifts for the little ones the same to prevent squabbles.
- Supply an age appropriate goody bag for the speeches – one thing is for sure, sitting quietly is not easy for little ones and older children may not appreciate the speeches either (however witty and amusing your speakers are). At our wedding I provided a small bag with a colouring book, crayons, soft toy and a few sweets. The same was also provided as a joke for one of the more troublesome male guests (sadly he was still able to heckle)!
- One wedding I attended had a separate craft and toy table for the kids to entertain themselves through the speeches and between courses. It worked very well and adults could take it in turns to keep an eye on them all together.
- Dare I say it…children of all ages seem to like dressing up and appreciate a photo booth!
Children WILL steal the show! They will speak up at the wrong time (“does anyone know of any lawful impediment..?”), they will crash through photographs (see below), while generating some absolutely charming images and we love them for it!
As an added bonus, I can almost guarantee they will start the dancing for you too!
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