It seems an update to the “Weddings – the Benefit of Hindsight” is long overdue so I threw it open to past Brides to help those of you currently planning your weddings. A big thank you to everyone who contributed.
From the Brides
“Don’t have a night out – even at the local pub – the night before. I left my handbag … with all of the cash and cards in it for the wedding day … in the bar.”
“Splash out and get hair, nails and make-up professionally done AT HOME! (It’s not good stressing about parking in a busy town centre 4hrs before you get married)”
“Stop trying to please everyone else. It’s your day! Who cares if your best man isn’t making a speech or you want an alcohol free wedding or bacon butties on the buffet. Make yourselves happy.”
“Simplicity and love it’s the small personal touches no need for grand over the top gestures it’s the people who share your day that make your day xx”
Make your planning records a keepsake (beats a spreadsheet any day!)
“I bought a beautiful diary from Laura Ashley, with gorgeous photos on every page. I then wrote every detail for the preceding year leading up to my wedding as they happened. Appointments, costs, what I chose and how/why. Details/addresses/contact details of where I bought things from etc. Ideas as they came to me. All just in brief, but I still have it somewhere (22 years on). Your wedding is a wonderful moment, and the planning and anticipation is as much fun as the day itself – which goes too quickly and parts of the big day can be soon forgotten, without a record of such details!”
Allow plenty of time for Wedding related craft projects (they often take longer than you think)
“If you’re making your own invites give yourself plenty of time and don’t give some people invites before others or people will misunderstand and think you haven’t invited them.”
Record the speeches (I love getting stills of the interactions during the speeches, but this is where video comes into its own)
“Consider a videographer or have someone at least record your speeches!”
“Definitely get a good photographer… Ours changed the time of the reception with the hotel without telling us so there was more time in the grounds for photos, and meaning we had to hire the wind trio for an extra hour, and then made me late for my own wedding by half an hour so they could get the shot they wanted as I was leaving the house…. It didn’t even make it into the album!! Above all though whatever the planning disasters and tears in the process, sod it all on the day and have fun, and at least a bottle of wine!!”
Many of our Brides have stated the need to pay for a good photographer and I could not agree more (obviously I have a strong bias on this).
From my own wedding
The day went by at an incredible pace. Even though we were not getting married until 4pm, getting ready seemed rushed and we were nowhere near ready for the photographer when he arrived. Plan on getting into your wedding dress earlier than you would think to allow photographs with family before you head off to the ceremony.
Wearing in my shoes ahead of the day was a resounding success (there were comments that I was the Bride on roller skates based on the duration and shocking style of my dancing).
Although you want to play host to your guests, try and do it WITH your husband. I didn’t see nearly enough of mine during the evening reception. Also, it is fine to excuse yourself at the end of the night if you want to. We ended up locked in a battle of wills with my new In-Laws. They didn’t want to leave before us, and we didn’t want to leave before our guests.
We were blessed with a great photographer, and although styles and techniques have moved on a great deal since 2000, my wedding album is still a treasured possession to remind me of the day.
From my favourite Bridesmaid of all time, to the Bride on her Wedding Day:
“All that matters is that you and Andrew (the Groom) meet in front of the priest and get married.”
So true, and yet it is very easy to lose sight of with all the choices of flowers, dresses and trimmings. The important thing is that you are marrying your partner and all the rest (not even sure I am allowed to say this working in the wedding industry) is window dressing.
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